First published on Medium December 1, 2019, by Bett Harris
Options and free-will
Life, in all areas, can be simplified to a yes or no, decision-making moment when options and free-will come together. At such moments profound change is possible. Nothing, save God, ever stays the same. Tomorrow will be different than today, guaranteed! How different depends on us. We have a say in how our tomorrow unfolds.
Transformation begins with us.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
If life is not how we’d planned it, one decision can change all that. The key is knowing what things we can influence and what things we can’t. Once we filter out the things we can’t control or change, such as other people and their actions and/or reactions, some of the craziness of life naturally falls away. We’re left with a sense of peace and serenity that allow for the next step in the transformation to take place.
Serenity and peace are the byproducts of recognizing our sphere of influence and honouring it. Worry is the exact opposite.
Grant me the courage to change the things I can
We have free will, and there are always options at our disposal if we search for them. Transformation means change and change requires courage. What we can control, our actions and/reactions toward things and others, is where we must gather our courage and apply our will.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
– Steve Jobs
Grant me the wisdom to know the difference
The battle between right and wrong, old and new, happens in the mind. Many of us hover on the cusp of change because we struggle to discern the best way to do it. It takes wisdom to sense the urging of our spirit and to learn to read the language of the soul. Wisdom comes with persistent and determined practice.
Our playing field is life and each decision to act represents our game plays. Discernment is a byproduct of practice with the intent to prevail.
If we always do what we’ve always done, we’ll always get what we’ve always got.
– Henry Ford
Simple steps to transform from worrier to warrior
- Know your options and claim your free-will
- Filter out what you can’t control
- Muster the courage to control what you can
- Practice until self-control gives way to wisdom